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Last time we talked about one of the most prominent abortion myths promoted by the pro-abortion community.  We showed the belief that abortions are safe and rare is completely false.  It is clear that with over 61 million abortions in the last 48 years coupled with all the complications that have come from them, they are neither safe nor rare.

What is the problem?

This time we are going to look at a couple of other abortion myths. The first of these is that if you get rid of the baby, you get rid of the problem.  In reality, nothing could be further from the truth.  This outlook on the situation could be described as a permanent solution to a temporary problem.  But is it really any kind of solution at all?

Let’s look at it.

First, we are assuming that the baby is the problem.  But God is very clear about His view on children.

Children are a gift from the Lord;
    they are a reward from him.

Psalm 127:3

If God tells us that children are a gift from Him…a reward, how can we then call them a “problem”?  It may be true that the timing of the child is inconvenient and might be causing us a temporary problem. A problem that should and can be handled without an abortion. But the child is not the problem.  Let’s not confuse the two.

Her problems multiply

Secondly, getting rid of the child through abortion leaves a woman with a whole other set of problems.

The truth of the matter is that her problems have just multiplied.

Women who have had an abortion have a 6 times higher rate of suicide than those who carry to term.

Teenagers are 10 times more likely to attempt suicide.

Women, and men, suffer from after-abortion trauma that has symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress disorder.  They include depression or despair, guilt, bouts of crying, anger, rage, emotional numbness, nightmares, and flashbacks.   These women often wake up in the middle of the night because they think they hear their baby crying.  And they have trouble bonding with future children.

Drug and alcohol abuse is much higher among women, and men, who have experienced an abortion.  Why?  The answer is simple.  Shame.

Why?

Whether they want to acknowledge it or not, they have to deal with the fact that they took the life of their child.  Likewise, whether they want to acknowledge it or not, they know in their heart of hearts that it was wrong.

Usually, when a woman has an abortion, she also struggles to forgive herself.  You don’t think so?  You haven’t sat across a counseling room with a woman who is uncontrollably weeping because of what she has done…her heart completely shattered.

As women, this act goes against everything God has created us to be.  We were created to nurture and love our children.  When a woman has an abortion, it fractures something inside of her.

Forgiven and Set Free, Revised and Updated Edition: A Post-Abortion Bible Study for Women

It hurts men too

If you have read carefully, you will notice that I said both women and men suffer psychological affects after experiencing an abortion.  Let’s focus briefly on another of the abortion myths.

This belief says that men not only should have no say where their child is concerned but that they are also not affected if their child is aborted.  However, the facts show differently.  Men suffer very similar effects as women.  A man’s God-given role is to protect his children. When he fails in this or actually encourages the abortion, he has to live with this as well.  It will eat at his soul. 

Healing a Father’s Heart: A Post-Abortion Bible Study for Men – eBook

(I realize that there are many instances where the father of the baby coerces the mother to “get rid of it”.  We will talk about that next time.)

God can and will forgive

This brings us to yet another one of the abortion myths that need to be dispelled. This myth tells people that taking part in an abortion is an unforgivable sin.  Nothing could be further from the truth! 

For those in the back, let me repeat myself.  Abortion is NOT an unforgivable sin.

If you have experienced an abortion, please know that God is waiting with His arms open wide to forgive you.  His desire is for you to be forgiven, healed, and set free.  Go to Him.  Let Him work in your life.  Let Him put the pieces of your heart back together again.

I realize that you may feel like He could not possibly forgive you.  You are wrong.

He does not treat us as our sins deserve
    or repay us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
    so great is His love for those who fear Him;
as far as the east is from the west,
    so far has He removed our transgressions from us.

Psalm 103:10-12

If this is you, go to Him.  Confess what you have done and ask Him to forgive you.  Get in a Bible study with other women or men who have experienced the same thing.  Forgive yourself and accept the healing that God offers.

Speak truth

Then go out and speak truth to other women who are considering an abortion.  Stop them from making the same mistake you may have made.  Let God use you and your mistakes to help other people.

…who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.

2Cor. 1:4

I know we have touched very quickly on several abortion myths in this post.  If you want to know more about the studies, please follow the links.

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